Mar 27, 2009

Why Motherhood is Masochistic...

The funny thing about being a mom and a wife...we are told just how hard and thankless the job is going to be, yet we jump into it regardless. We spend our entire childhood dreaming up our flawless wedding day and playing with our little baby dolls like they are real and perfect. I don't know about you, but my wedding day was stressful! And my babies, um yeah, VERY REAL, but anything from perfect. What is wrong with us women? Are we masochistic or something!?!?

Today I am wishing to not be a mommy, and to not be a wife. I've had enough of being told how mean I am, how horrible my cooking is, and how poorly I do at grocery shopping. Do I not have a SPOTLESS house 90% of the time? Do I not have a well cooked, piping hot dinner on the table most nights? Do I not make sure everyone has something to wear and a clean pair of underpants every day? Amongst the slew of other things I do to keep this household happy and healthy, do they not see it? DO THEY NOT SEE IT! (One of my favorite lines from "The Story of Us")

Yes, we hear how thankless the job of being a wife and mother is, yet we dive right into it.
We look down at that brutally cold water, thinking it will cool us off and feel wonderful and relaxing. We plunge head first off the diving board of life into a pool that is all too shallow. There is just enough water to sustain us and keep us free from life threatening injury, but the liquid surrounding us is just a bit colder than we may have anticipated. Unfortunately we have all made the dive already. We are in the water and all we can do is swim. Although it feels like I am merely doing the doggy paddle these days, at least I'm not drowning.

I know I'm not alone in this. So I will
abstain from asking for sympathy or pity. But SERIOUSLY!!! Can I at least get me a little slack cut? Can someone throw me a raft or a life preserver to help me float for a bit? No? Ok, can I settle for a big fat glass of Shiraz then?

8 comments:

Brian said...

Well...I can at least give you an AMEN sista!

Marybeth said...

There seems to be a Ton of religious responses to this Posting!!! Can I get a Halleluia!

Rachel said...

I totally agree. Love the insight - very well written.

T. Anne said...

Welcome to my world. Some days I feel like I've gone under. Everyday is something new...oh no wait, it's sort of the same ;)

JM81 said...

Um, I would just like to point out that I, a woman, never dreamed of the perfect wedding, nor have I ever wanted kids *GASP* ....and being married is enough for me, Thankyouverymuch. I in no way wish to complicate things further with small humans.

But, for those that do make the choice to procreate and spawn beings in their own images, I salute you. You do far more than I ever could and I respect you greatly (and secretly tease you...I mean...um...oh crap).

I do wish to point out, though, that I spend my days surrounded by walking hormone factories. And the big kids are just as big of a handful as the little ones. Especially when there are MANY of them. But yes.... good luck, best wishes, and a giant bottle of wine to you!

Marybeth said...

BOOOO to hormone factories! Not in any rush to be there yet. But HOORAY to giant bottles of wine! Pinot Evil anyone? (Well not that I am about to share, but you can buy your own bottle!) Is it 5pm yet :)

Tobby Smith said...

I think I built this blog a little too well. :-)

Nice post. Bring on the wine!

Jessica said...

Awww, I hear you. I hate cooking so my meals are not exactly piping and hot. LOL At least you got that down. :-) Hope your mood gets better. It stinks when we feel this way. So, yeah, it is kind of masochistic, right? That's so funny. I have three boys and one thing I'm going to do is to raise them not expecting their wives to do EVERYTHING. Sheesh. :-)