Dec 2, 2009

You Mean I'm NOT the Only One with Insecurities?

Insecurities seem to be a trending topic through out the blogging world today, well at least with my fellow writers. I've come to the conclusion that you haven't felt insecurity until you've been a writermotherwifefriendblogger.

It's true!

Sure we've all been through high school and had our typical self-conscious moments.

Are my clothes cool enough? Why isn't my pimple cream working? Why are my boobs smaller than hers? Why does he have bigger muscles than me? Am I a dork? Am I a hot enough jock?

We've all been there, but we all know it goes away. Life happens and we get over it. We gain new insecurities, but they are usually small and ridiculous. (Ok so some aren't, but if I said that my blog post wouldn't work work with me here!)

But when you are a writermotherwifefriendblogger there are so MANY sets of insecurities you can't even keep track over which ones are more prominent.

The insecurities of a writer on their own are hugely overwhelming. All the rejections and ridicule. It's hard to remember whether or not you are a good writer when 75% of the feedback is usually negative.

The insecurities of being a wife and a mother paired with all the hormones of being a woman. You might as well put us in a padded room with a big bottle of Shiraz (and/or Tequila...and for you non drinkers we won't leave out the chocolate and coffee!) at least once a once a day is more accurate. And don't even ask us how we feel about needing to be in that padded room with our comfort objects because then you are just bringing up a whole other set of issues and showing the proof that we aren't adequate mothers and wives!

With me still?

Being a friend isn't any easier. It's hard to fit friendships in between all the mothering and husband loving and book writing. We have to sit back and ask if we've paid enough attention to our friends. Have we talked about our books more than they've cared to listen about them? Have we stopped talking about our books and our kids and our husbands long enough to listen to them talk about theirs? It's madness I tell you.

And then we add in blogging. What were we thinking!?!?

I don't know about you but I am constantly thinking about what I am going to blog about tomorrow. Will it be interesting enough for people to want to comment? Will they like my post? Will I offend them? Will I bore them? Do I have enough followers? Do my followers actually read my blog or do they just follow me?


So don't worry my fellow writermotherwifefriendblogger's and all those who only do one to three of those duties. We all feel it. You are not alone.

Now does anyone know where I left my bottle of Champagne and my straight jacket? Can I get that stuff via IV? I'll take pizza if you can't find any!

I googled 'Insecurities' and got this photo.
I'm not going to ask...I'm just going to enjoy it!



Eileen Astels Watson said...

Insecurities sure are prime these days. Thanks for the pic. I'm going to enjoy it too!!!

Jessica said...

Funny that that's the pic you got. Heh.

Yep, this seems to be the topic going 'round. Bleck.

A padded room sounds really cozy... :-)

Jessica M. said...

Try being a teacher...lemme tell ya, insecurities about at all levels!! Not to mention heading home to be a wife and a friend. I think we all have insecurities, no matter our job/positition/role in life. Which makes it humorous in a way. We're always worried what others are thinking about us and whether or not we live up to certain things in life, while other people are staring right back at us thinking the same things. We could get a lot further in life with some truth, honesty, and a bit more compassion and empathy. For sure!

Marybeth Poppins said...

Eileen I am totally ok with Google's choice as well :) Glad you could enjoy.

You have a good point Jessica...padded totally equals cozy!

I agree Jess. Here's to a little less insecurity in life and a little more compassion!

Jody Hedlund said...

Too funny! We ARE totally on the same page today! Love it! I'm so encouraged though, to know that I'm not battling this alone!

Julie said...

I'm not going to question the photo either and I enjoyed it thoroughly!

Rebecca said...

Same goes for being an about wanting people to love your work! Anyway...I love you and your work!!!

ElanaJ said...

I so feel you on the insecurities. They never go away. It's one of those things I have to constantly coach myself on.

You are awesome, Marybeth! Repeat that!

Marybeth Poppins said...

Isn't it nice to know we are not alone. :)

And thanks Elana.... Repeating... you are awesome Marybeth.

(Ooooh it's kinda like listening to a self help tape!)

(OMG can you believe I just said tape!! They don't even make tapes anymore. I totally meant CD of course!)

Natalie said...

Everybody is insecure today, (including me, ahem). Don't worry, I like you for you :)

Marybeth Poppins said...

Awe thanks Natalie. I like you too. I promise it has nothing to do with the coolness of your name....Ok wait let me try that again...I promise it doesn't have any more than 25% to do with the coolness of your name ;)
No more like are kinda awesome....

Foursons said...

Wow- nice photo for "insecurities." And I'm with you on every single one of these except for the writer part since I'm not actually writing a book. But all the others hit so close to home.

marymac said...

I totally feel you on this post, dude. It hit home! I am feeling burned out on the whole scene- I did NaBloPoMo and posting for 30 days straight almost drove me to insanity! Hope all's well with you, Poppins!

Katie Ganshert said...

Three posts today on insecurity. It's like your all speakin' my language. I'm so there with ya!

Marybeth Poppins said...

Foursons, I'm quite ok with feeling insecure if he is involved in any way shape or form!

Marymac, it's amazing how many of us are all feeling the same way. I don't know how you did 30 posts in 30 days. My brain can't come up with that many ideas!!! Good to hear from you. Hope all is well with you also :)

Marybeth Poppins said...

Katie, I thought I'd follow the crowd. Maybe we can make it a trending topic on Twitter too. LOL

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injaynesworld said...

MaryMac sent me. I can't do anything about your insecurities as a wife/mother/woman. I'm blessedly single with no kids and, at 60, I'm cooler than I've ever been. But I can assuage your insecurities as a writer. I find you to be funny, bright and interesting. Your prose flows well and you seem to have managed to avoid the tiresome snark-overload prevalent on so many blogs. In short, you have your own unique voice and that's good. I'll be back.

Marybeth Poppins said...

Jayne, What a wonderful compliment! Thank you so much. I look forward to seeing you back soon :)

ajm said...

Hello, Ms. Poppins! So glad to have found your blog (through MaryMac's) -- great read. Now I will spend my Sunday pouring over all of it and ignoring my family. Also cool to find a fellow Michigander. In fact, I live maybe 35 minutes south of Lansing in the lovely prison city. :) My school colors are maize and blue, however, but I hope that you don't hold that against me!